{"id":6085,"date":"2023-05-10T20:03:17","date_gmt":"2023-05-10T18:03:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tibicon.net\/en\/?p=6085"},"modified":"2023-05-10T20:03:17","modified_gmt":"2023-05-10T18:03:17","slug":"ten-things-not-to-do-after-a-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tibicon.net\/en\/2023\/05\/ten-things-not-to-do-after-a-failure\/","title":{"rendered":"TEN THINGS \"NOT\" TO DO AFTER A FAILURE"},"content":{"rendered":"

Many people ask me how to react to a failure, that is when the slap they received was loud and left them there in confusion.<\/p>\n

Well, it is difficult to answer, because the situations can be quite different.<\/p>\n

I find it more convenient, and useful, to suggest some behaviours to avoid, those that might prevent you from getting back up and approaching the future with confidence.<\/p>\n

Here are my 10 DON’T!<\/p>\n

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  1. DON’T reflect on your mistakes when dark emotions are still in control of your head<\/strong>: when you are down everything appears more difficult.<\/li>\n
  2. DON’T cry on the first shoulder you meet<\/strong>: it may not be the right one and your interlocutor may not be able to offer you useful feedback.<\/li>\n
  3. DON’T think of yourself as stupid or, worse, hopeless<\/strong>: even worthy people make mistakes.<\/li>\n
  4. DON’T tell your misfortune to everyone you cross on the street<\/strong> (or on social media if you prefer): they are less interested in your affairs than you might think, and their comfort may prove to be a fragile crutch.<\/li>\n
  5. DON’T look for alibis<\/strong>: putting on others or fate the responsibility for your failure will not help you understand your mistakes and value them.<\/li>\n
  6. DON’T forget to reflect on how much good you have done so far<\/strong>: because even by doing your best you can’t have done everything wrong.<\/li>\n
  7. DON’T linger listening to the people who will want to comfort you<\/strong>: empathy generated by sorrow can induce that strange feeling of pleasure that will make your reaction more difficult.<\/li>\n
  8. DON’T be held back by the fear that what happened may happen all over again<\/strong>: better to fail again than to stop striving.<\/li>\n
  9. DON’T forget that there are people who need you<\/strong>: they are not always by your side and there may be more of them than you think.<\/li>\n
  10. DON’T stop trying to get up<\/strong>: if you stay on the ground, you will hardly be able to walk again.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    And you want to get up and walk, don’t you?<\/p>\n

    What do you think? Do you have doubts about your chances to start again?<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Watch this video!<\/p>\n