I think we can share the idea that listening is an essential function of communication that multimedia has substantially damaged, because we are systematically urged to devote attention to more than one thing at the same time.
Is this all the smartphone’s fault?
Absolutely not, because long-standing habits affect listening skills perhaps more profoundly than a multimedia tool.
Don’t you believe this? You’ll change your mind after I tell you about competitive listening.
We can define competitive listening as that
Competitive listening has, in my experience, several different occurrences:
At the root of competitive listening is the desire to feel better than others, the hurry, the fear of being attacked, and the will to occupy the middle stage always and in any case.
And if you have read all six points above, you have also realized that my attempt to turn the interlocutor into a spectator has failed, because he has soon lost the will to listen to me.
Basically, I was left alone talking to myself: and I’m not even sure I realized it.
Has anything like this ever happened to you?
PS: If your answer is yes, don’t take it too hard and work on it. There are people who, to overcome certain bad habits, even set up as coaches… (guess who?!)
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